girls before boys...

todays thought: do women treasure their friendships with other women over their relationship with men? hmmm... well this week i found myself in this situation. one of my sorors initially invited me to an event with her but then called me later and canceled because her boo is in town and wants to go to the game. honestly i was cool with it because i am use to it but it brings up that question why do women constantly compromise their own personal lives for men.

i am not going to lie and say that i have not been guilty of the same thing. i use to do the same thing every week for the past three years. however now i realize that when your crying over him later... your girls are the ones holding your hand while he is moving on. i think the part that baffles my mind about this is that i asked a guy friend of mine and he told me that if he already invited his boys then he would have told his girl no... hmmm... so why do guys have a bros before hos philosophy?

this brings me to another point that i think is even deeper... i think as women we often have convenience friendships. we have a ton of friends if we are single (think about ur single friends they have a ton of people to kick it with...) but when we get booed up its all about him. as a single lady i have to admit i am alot more active in the scene now than i was last year because i am not booed up. however... men don't do this? they hang out with their boys regardless of their current relationship status. thinking maybe the male perspective on this one might be the winner.

cheers,
the urbanista